Friday, April 26, 2013

Identity

Oh man, this blog has gotten dusty and there are virtual cobwebs everywhere from my lack of posting. Generally, everyone knows that no news is NOT good news in the weight loss blogging community. This is the same in my case. I wouldn't say that I have failed but rather that I've been stagnant. However, I am back on track this week with a loss of 4lbs or so and am headed in the right direction. I did have something that I wanted to share however. 

I listened to a call today that TSFL broad casted for health coaches which is something I rarely do. Sometimes I roll my eyes at the "self help" stuff that our world has to offer, and yet, whenever I have one of those aha moments they are totally worth it. The call today was about identity and as I cleaned my kitchen (because heaven forbid I actually sit and listen to anything....I'm a multi-tasker to the core) I actually had to stop and take notes because I felt like I needed to really unpack what I was hearing.

First off, the gal talked about identity as defining who we want to be. Not necessarily saying, "I want to be skinny and wear a size 4" but more "I want to be a healthy woman who has control over her food choices". Or even "I want to be physically fit" or "I want to be a better friend". Or with this season of life, "I want to be a woman that follows this program and loses the weight".

Once you've identified your identity, you can make actions to prove it to yourself. For me, something that comes to mind is "I want to be a woman with a cleaner house". A way of proving this to myself would be getting off my butt while my kids are napping and cleaning something, anything each day. That is proving to myself that I indeed DO want to be that kind of woman. And even though I can't clean my entire house each day like I want to or need to, I can at least have a clean kitchen, bathroom, etc.

With this program, I want to be the kind of woman and health coach that follows through and does what I say I will do. To prove this, I will eat my 5 medifast meals a day, my lean and green, and I will chug water. Obviously, my underlying goal is to be skinny and hot for my husband, duh. But that goal seems soooo far down the road that if I focus on that, what I see in the mirror discourages me. Instead, I can look in the mirror and say, "I want to be the kind of woman that follows this program and I AM! I ate my 5 meals today and my lean and green. I am that woman. I don't have to be at my goal weight to say that I am a woman that wants to succeed in this program, I can be that woman every day long before I get to my goal weight".

Traditionally we do the opposite. We say, I want to look like this, I'm going to follow this program, and hopefully my habits will change and follow once I've got my hot new bod. A new behavior or change has to start internally before my external image will change.

This really resonated with me and I even Facebooked it a minute ago: when planning goals, don't strive to achieve only goals but rather strive to be the kind of person that achieves those goals. I need to decide the kind of person I want to be and then prove it to myself with small wins each day. Small wins will add up. If you say to yourself, "I want to be a runner" and you start out by running a minute today, two minutes tomorrow, three minutes the next day, eventually those minutes WILL add up.

If I want to be a better friend, say "I will be the kind of friend that keeps in touch and makes my friends feel valued". I can say, every Saturday I will write a friend a note and at the end of the month, 4 friends will feel loved and valued. In my mind I think, I should write a note every day to a friend and that will make me feel like I'm a good friend but that's just not realistic.
I must identify with the kind of person I WANT to be and makes steps each day to prove it to myself. How do I want to present myself? Obviously the goal of getting hot has not worked for me thus far. Yes, I want my husband to think I'm hot but ultimately, we have a great marriage right now and he does love me. I want to be more in shape so that I can be active with my kids and a better mom but ultimately, I AM a good mom right now. That's not something that's contingent on me losing the weight. And so I've had to really examine WHY I can't get over these hurdles. And I really feel like defining my identity will be the thing that takes me to the next level.

I'm not getting any younger. My kids are growing up despite my best efforts to keep them little. Their childhood is happening and I'm the only mother they've got. More that the desire to be attractive and thin, I long to be a woman that my daughter looks up to and that my son compares all his potential future brides to. ;) I long to be a good friend, I long to change my little world in some capacity. Defining these things and establishing doable action steps will be the key. PROGRESS, NOT PERFECTION!! (Although I soooo prefer perfection but rarely achieve it!)



Life is a journey and I haven't missed any {real} deadlines in regards to weight loss. Yes, I had goals but all hope is not lost because I haven't achieved them yet. I am challenged to redefine my identity as a woman, wife and friend and my physical appearance will have no choice but to change as a result. ;)

Thursday, February 7, 2013

Update!

Hello friends, it's been awhile! We had a great vacation in Vegas. I thought I would be dying to come back....but I could have stayed a little longer. I was excited to see my kids of course but right when we came back they got sick and thus, the draining part of parenthood sucked out any extra energy we had gotten while on vacation. :)

I did not stay on Medifast while on vacation, mainly because I didn't bring any food with me. The day we left I had woken up to an email from a Realtor saying my offer had been rejected because of one missing initial, and I had kind of a freak out morning. In the midst of taking care of all that, I failed to pack my bars. It was fine though, I tried not to make any obvious bad choices, like fried foods, etc. I did consume a decent amount of calories in cocktails though. ;) We did a ton of walking around too which hopefully counteracted calorie consumption.

I weighed in when I got home so I could start my DietBet (more on that later) and was up a few pounds but I'm certain it was from that bloat that comes from going off program. I'll do another weigh in on Monday for the DietBet and keep you posted.

Okay, what is DietBet? A group of girls that I know on FB started one and I said I would participate! I had originally set out to do a Biggest Loser challenge with a friend but they way they scored it wouldn't work for me. Most of the girls only wanted to lose 10-15lbs and they gave points per pound that you lost. Obviously I want to lose more so I didn't think it would be fair for someone that wants to lose significantly more weight to participate in that particular challenge.

Anyways....DietBet is an online site where you put your money into a pool and then your goal is to lose 4% of your body weight in a month. If you do, you get a piece of the pot. If no one meets their goal but you, you get the whole pot. You have to take pictures of the scale so it can be verified. It's a cool challenge! The buy in was $10, not bad. I was thinking about starting one among my own friends. We'll wait and see how this one goes! I'm optimistic though.

Hawaii is coming up in a little over three months. I want to look different than I do now when I board the plane. Stay tuned! :)

Friday, January 25, 2013

Friday Weigh In #4

Today the Wii Fit reported a loss of 2.5lbs this week! Whoo hoo!!! I wasn't sure how well I was going to do this week. I haven't been drinking as much water as I should be and I have not been getting enough sleep, both critical elements to weight loss. However, the scale keeps headed down and I'm so thankful! Hard work and sacrifice is SO worth it! Last night it would have been fun to have chips and guacamole at Baja Fresh, but that would have only brought me satisfaction for a few minutes. Instead, I said goodbye to 2.5lbs forever and that will bring me satisfaction for a LIFETIME!

Excited for the weekend and week ahead! My mom arrives tomorrow and then Brett and I are VEGAS BOUND for 4 days, 3 nights. We are going with some of our best friends and we're all positively giddy at the thought of kid free adult conversation. I'm SO jazzed!!

I love the program that I am on and had several friends sign up to do it with me this week. Love accountability and love coaching my friends to have the same successes that I am. If you or someone you know could benefit from a fully integrated program that focuses on healthy mind and body, let me know! I'm so thankful to be on the right track in 2013!

Friday, January 18, 2013

Friday Weigh In!

This morning Brett decided to weigh in first while I was upstairs still getting ready. He's been somewhat watching what he eats but the past few days has way indulged. I was not anticipating much for a weigh in for him. He comes running upstairs, saying he lost an incredible 7.8lbs. What!?!?!? You're telling me that the man who ate a giant twice baked potato last night loaded with cheese AND ice cream and cookies for dessert lost nearly 8lbs in a week?!

Turns out he used the Wii Fit on our new shaggy rug which dramatically altered the results. Ha.

He tried again on the hardwood floors and as I suspected, he had gained a half a pound. That sounds a little more accurate.

I was tempted to give myself the same amazingly inaccurate results by weighing in on the rug but decided to keep it real. I lost 1.5lbs! This isn't my best week by far but I did eat a high sodium meal last night at my in-laws and it's that lovely time of the month so I suspect I'm just setting myself up for a great week next week. :)

It's hard when you go to someone's house for dinner on program. You don't want to be rude, but at the same time, you need to stick with it. I offered to bring a salad so I knew there would be one thing I could eat for sure. I ate the chicken my MIL made but I was pretty certain it was loaded with salt.

I joined a "Biggest Loser" challenge with a friend on FB. She's more of an acquaintance but posted she was going to start a group and asked if anyone was interested. I love a good challenge and I plan on winning! :)

Happy Friday!

Friday, January 11, 2013

Friday Weigh In

Today the Wii scale reported at 2.2lb loss since Monday, bring my 2013 weight loss total to a little over 8lbs! Yippee!

Have a great weekend!

Thursday, January 10, 2013

Forget the former things...

For me, a huge part of the weight loss struggle is dwelling in past failures. I've struggled with my weight my entire life. I've been on a diet or in a a pre-dieting state for most of my teenage and adult life. My 32nd birthday is around the corner and it's tough to not be sad about how I wasted my teenage years and 20's in such an unhealthy body. Granted, I have a very full and rich life. I love my husband and children and am very fulfilled by them. However, I long to be more. Or in a more literal sense, I actually strive to be less. ;)

Isaiah 43:18-19 says "forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up, do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the desert and streams in the wasteland."

Making a way in the desert.....that sounds absolutely wonderful. We've all be in places where whatever obstacle lies before seems impossible. However, God promises that He is doing a new thing. Each day is a chance to make good choices and move forward in health.

As I approach my birthday, I choose to forget the former things and look for the new. New ways to inspire my family to be healthy, to educate my children on the importance of eating right and being active, and spurring on those around me to pursue health in their own lives and find freedom and energy.

I hope this verse encourages you today like it did me. :)

Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Lean and Green Shrimp Scampi with Spaghetti Squash



I saw this recipe originally in Rachael Ray's magazine and thought that it would probably fit into my program's lean and green requirements. I emailed the recipe to nutrition support at TSFL and they modified it slightly to fit the program guidelines. 

• 1 spaghetti squash (about 3lbs), halved lengthwise – yields 4 cups cooked
• 2 tablespoons EVOO
• 1/2 cup red bell pepper, finely chopped
• 1 clove garlic finely chopped
• 2 pounds large shrimp, peeled and deveined
• 1/4 cup low-sodium chicken broth
• 1 tablespoon fresh lemon juice
1/4 teaspoon lemon zest
• 2 teaspoons chopped flat-leaf parsley
• ¼ teaspoon salt
½ teaspoon pepper


Directions
1. Place the squash cut sides down in a large, microwavable dish. Add 1/3 cup water and microwave on high until tender, about 10 minutes. Let cool, then remove the seeds.
2. Meanwhile, in a large skillet, heat 1 tbsp. EVOO over medium heat. Add the bell pepper and garlic and cook, stirring frequently, until they begin to soften, about 3 minutes. Add the shrimp, vegetable broth and lemon juice and cook, tossing occasionally, until the shrimp are firm and pink, about 5 minutes. Stir in the lemon zest and parsley; remove from the heat.
3. Using a fork, rake the spaghetti squash lengthwise to remove the flesh (it will pull away in long strands). Toss the squash with the remaining 2 tsp. EVOO. Season with salt and pepper.
4. Divide the squash among 3-4 plates. Top with the shrimp; drizzle with sauce.
I used more garlic, a little more bell pepper and also seasoned with a little garlic salt. 

This was a yummy, out of the normal dinner for my family. The best part, I had gone to the store for a few things and didn't get home until 6pm last night. I almost decided to not make this because surely it was time consuming but then I decided just to do it. It took under 20 minutes to prep, cook and plate up the food! Score! Also, my 4 year old daughter enjoyed this meal which was a surprise. I'm not sure she's ever had shrimp before. She enjoyed this dish with some parmesan cheese sprinkled on top. 
Bon appetit! :)